It’s after Christmas and slightly before New Year’s so it’s time to think long and hard about everything you messed up this year so you can resolve to do better in 2015.
2015 is your year. This is the year you’re really going to make all those resolutions come true. You really mean it this time. For reals. You are not screwing around. No ma’am. No sir. This is it. This is time you mean it. This isn’t like all those other times where you said you meant it when really, it turns out…you didn’t. Nope. This is it. This time is different. This is the real deal.
But, let’s be honest — it probably isn’t.
This probably is not the year that you’re going to make all those resolutions come true. So let’s just quickly and quietly acknowledge that and then, to maintain your self-esteem (and also, because we’re lazy) let’s all just agree that’s okay.
It’s okay to be okay with who you are right now: 2014 you, pre-resolution you, just you, as is. You’re not so bad.
I think New Year’s is a perfect time to give a shout-out to people who do their own shout-outs. They deserve it, though they probably already know that.
Okay, to be clear, I’m not talking about people who run around screaming “I’m awesome! Everyone look at me!” all the time. (Though, admittedly, I’ve done that a few times. But you know, just a few times. Not like all the time.)
It’s just, in general, I think it’s sad that so many people have a hard time saying or believing positive things about themselves.
Admitting that you’re okay with who you are shouldn’t be perceived as making you arrogant, cocky or self-centered. It should just mean that you’re comfortable with discussing your positives as well as your negatives — that you can own up to the good bits as well as the bad.
There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s a good thing.
You shouldn’t have to feel like you’re broken, like you need to be fixed, like you need to be saved or like you’re just not quite good enough yet.
Because here’s the thing — you’re probably just fine as you are, thank you very much, you just haven’t realized it yet.
No, obviously, you’re not perfect. Duh, nobody’s perfect. Except for maybe Chris Pratt, he has been kind of killing it lately.
But, Chris Pratt aside, everyone has faults. Everyone has flaws. Everyone’s a bit weird, dorky, confusing and annoying. Everybody. So just because you’re flawed, weird, dorky, confusing and annoying, that doesn’t mean you have to feel bad about it all the damn time (or resolve to change things that just make you, you.)
Here’s the thing about feeling bad about yourself — it’s boring. It’s a complete bummer.
Constantly comparing yourself to other people and assuming (probably incorrectly) that you come up short is a total drag. It is also a complete and total waste of time.
You don’t have to compare yourself to other people all the time. They don’t control how you feel about you, you do. Self worth isn’t crowd-sourced. It’s kind of on you. You’re in charge of it.
For the most part (excluding some kind of psychological or verbal abuse that I’m not getting into in a blog post because I’m absolutely not qualified to do so) you’re in charge of how you feel about yourself. It’s your own damn business.
So, with that in mind, you might as well start being nicer to yourself at New Year’s and all year round.
The great minds have been recommending that for years, we just need to listen.
Eleanor Roosevelt told us “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” and, just as importantly, Dr. Seuss taught us that “Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.”
So if you’re not going to listen to Ellie Roosevelt (No, I’m pretty sure she was never called that. But I don’t care. I’m doing it anyway.) then at least listen to Dr. Seuss. He is a doctor after all, you know, sort of…
Okay, fine, so he’s not a doctor, but he does make a lot of good points so you should probably just listen to him anyway.
Odds are, the people you love aren’t spending a bunch of time nit-picking and pouring over your flaws. They like you, flaws and all, so yeah, they don’t care. There’s no sense worrying about them.
And, as for those people who don’t like you, who cares what they think? If they don’t like you, they obviously can’t see how effortlessly awesome you are, as such, you’re forced to conclude that they have flawed taste in people. They are also probably idiots. So yeah, their opinions matter exactly nil, zilch, nada, zip.
So stop wasting your time thinking about them.Think about Chris Pratt instead.
Did I mention he’s kind of awesome? Also, I assume he’s one of the few people who can successfully complete his New Year’s resolutions. Those resolutions are obviously just: “Continue to be awesome!”
As for me, my resolution is to stop being so creepy about Chris Pratt.
(I can only assume I won’t be successful.)